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Dream From Course Workbook
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Test Yourself |
Dreamer:
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Title:
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Wrong Road |
Dreamer's Comment:
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I had the following dream just last week - if you could help
on the interpretation I would be grateful. I seem to have a very good dream life -
and find them of great value. |
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I have done this dream out step by step to show you how a complex
dream can be broken up and interpreted easily. Let's look at the dream. As you read
it try to figure out what the subject matter is. Don't try to interpret anything
else for now. I have underlined the parts of the dream which will help you determine the
subject matter. Here's the dream. |
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I Am
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Wrong Road
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I Need
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I was getting my family and I ready for my husband's
brother-in-laws funeral, rushing around etc.. When we arrived I found I had forgotten
to put the suitcases in the car. I didn't worry too much about everyone else as
other friends/relatives had clothes the family could borrow. But I am overweight and
didn't know where I was going to find any clothes to wear. And it didn't seem like a funeral when we got there. (He lives in Alaska - is
elderly - but when I last knew him he was very unpredictable - I never trusted him as I
didn't know what he would do next).
Now I'm in my husband's and my 1963 Pontiac Tempest sports
coupe (his pride and joy) and going down a highway and there is a stop light (red) coming
up. I try to stop the car but it keeps going right through the light - I can
literally feel the wheel turning to the right all by itself.
I find myself on a road/trail along side a smooth 2-lane
interstate. This side road is rough, bumpy, full of rocks. I come to a spot in
the road where there is clear water running out of a pipe by the side of the road and the
water runs over the road and down in the ditch to my left. The ditch is full of snow
and water so I know I can't go down there to get to the other good road. I think to
myself that I have to get on that road to the left of me as I can't go any further
where I'm at. |
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Did you get it? Let's tease it out.
The dream is about a male's funeral. As in any dream about death this does not indicate
death of a person but death of an aspect of the dreamer. Literally the dream is saying
that an aspect of the dreamer has to die so that another aspect can find expression. So
what aspect is it? We can see that there is a double male association with the funeral
(husband's brother-in-law). Later we also see that the dreamer's car (or life) tends
towards the right but the dreamer is aware that she needs to now go to the left. Quite
often choices in a dream, in this case between right and left, are another effective way
of getting at the subject matter. In this case the right indicates the male side and the
left indicates the female side. We all have both male and female sides. Don't confuse this
with man and woman sides! This dream is placing the dreamer on the right (right side road)
and showing her she needs to get to the road on the left. So to put it all together the subject matter of the dream is
death of the dreamer's male approach to life to allow her female side more expression. In
the dreamer's own words she is telling us she is on the wrong road and needs to
change because she can't go any further where she's at.
Now let's continue. In what way is the
dreamer's approach to life 'too male'? Using the formula explained in How to Interpret a Dream it becomes easy to find out. Here is
the dream again with negative words and phrases marked and placed under the I Am column
and positive ones marked and placed under the I Need column. Remember, to interpret the
phrases you need to apply them to the subject matter. We'll take the first half of the
dream to begin with. |
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I Am
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Wrong Road
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I Need
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2rushing 6friends/relatives
had clothes the family could borrow
7Alaska
8elderly
9I never trusted |
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I was 1getting my family and I ready
for my
husband's brother-in-laws funeral, 2rushing
around etc.. When 3we arrived I found I had
4forgotten
to put the suitcases in the car. 5I didn't worry
too much about everyone else as other 6friends/relatives had clothes the family could borrow. But I
am overweight and didn't know where I was going to 4find any clothes to wear. And
it didn't seem like a funeral when we got there. (He lives in 7Alaska - is
8elderly - but when I last knew him he was
very
unpredictable - 9I
never trusted him as I didn't know what he would do
next). |
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1to
get ready 3to
arrive
7forget
the suitcases
5I didn't worry
4to not have clothes
to wear |
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Let's take the I Am column first. I
will add comment as necessary to make the meaning clearer.
2 |
When it comes to my approach to
life I am rushing. When we rush we do not allowing ourselves time to stop and listen to
our intuition / feelings (female side). |
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Clothes represent attitudes. So
here the dream is saying that I borrowed or adopted attitudes from my family. I know that
the dreamer is saying that she cannot borrowing the clothes but when you remember Rule 1, Everything in the Dream is me, it becomes clear. |
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Alaska as a location, North,
indicates the head (male side) as compared to a location south which would indicate the
heart (female side). Something which also backs this up is that Alaska is a cold place.
Cold in a dream indicates a lack of emotions or unfeeling (again this indicates a
repressed female side). |
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This indicates that the approach
to life is old-fashioned. |
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Put bluntly this is saying 'When
it comes to my approach to life I am not trusting'. Again the ability to trust comes from
our female side. Develop the female side and the trusting ability will mature. |
Now let's look at the I Need
column. We would expect this column to tell the dreamer how to encourage female qualities.
1 |
When it comes to my approach to
life I need to get ready / prepare myself for changing the road I am on. |
3 |
I need 'to arrive' at the right
approach to life. The way to do this is explained in the same sentence of the dream and
described in 4 below. |
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When it comes to my approach to
life I need to 'forget the suitcases' or drop the baggage I am carrying around. In this
case clothes are contained in the baggage. This means that the dreamer is being asked to
eliminate negative attitudes she has picked up from her family. Because the person dying
in the dream is male it would point towards negative traits picked up from dad. |
5 |
When it comes to my approach to
life I need to not worry. Again this points towards developing trust. Trust that life will
present everything that's needed - don't worry about life. |
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to not have clothes to wear -
ie. don't adopt the attitudes of your family. |
Now let's look at the rest of
the dream. We would expect it to continue in the same vein. |
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I Am
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Wrong Road
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I Need
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11963 2stop
light (red)
2try to stop
4turning to the right
6rough, bumpy, full
of rocks
8by the side of the
road
10snow
11I can't go any
further where I'm at |
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Now I'm in my husband's and my 11963
Pontiac Tempest sports coupe (his pride and joy) and going down a highway and there is a
2stop light (red) coming
up. 2I try to stop
the car but it keeps going right through the light - 3I can literally feel the wheel
4turning to the right all by itself. I find myself on a road/trail along side a
5smooth
2-lane interstate. This side road is 6rough,
bumpy, full of rocks. I come to
a spot in the road where there is 7clear water running out of a pipe
8by the side of the road and
7the water runs over the road and down in the
9ditch to my left. The ditch is full of
10snow and water so I know
11I can't 12go down there to get to the other good road. I think to
myself that 12I have to get
on that road to the left of me as 11I can't go any further where I'm
at. |
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3I
can feel 5smooth
2-lane interstate
7clear water
7the water runs over
the road
9ditch to my left
12go
down there to get to the other road
12I have to get on
that road to the left |
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Again we'll start with the I Am
column.
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In this part we are given a date
'1963'. Quite often dates are used in dreams to tell the dreamer the time in her life that
she needs to look at. So look to 1963, most likely childhood. What happened in 1963. Is
there a specific event which stands out? |
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When I comes to my approach to
life I am being stopped (by the red light). Red in this case stands for anger (refer to The Meaning of
Colors in Dreams
Colors in Dreams). So the
interpretation is that my own anger is stopping me from progressing in life. Remember that
dreams exaggerate so we are not talking about a person who is constantly angry but rather
somebody that has picked up on her father's anger and this trait, when displayed, holds
her back. Anger as an emotion is useful for setting boundaries but is sometimes indulged
in to keep people at a distance emotionally, so that they can't get close enough to hurt
the individual. Again, link it to childhood. What happened in childhood in 1963 that
caused enough pain for a child to say 'I won't let anybody else get close enough to hurt
my feelings again'. |
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When it comes to my approach to
life I turn to the right - or put another way - I use a male approach to life. Again don't
confuse this with a man's approach. Contrast this with point 3 in the I Need column where
the dreamer is being shown her potential to 'feel'. This is the female approach to life. I
will come back to this in detail in the summary at the end. |
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This is how the dreamer sees
life. It is rough, bumpy and full or rocks (or difficulties). To be more accurate we link
cause and effect. The dream is saying that because of my male approach to life I am
finding life rough, bumpy and full or rocks. |
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When it comes to life I find
myself at the side of the road. Although I can see the main highway I don't find myself
able to get there. |
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I am snow. Snow is white and
frozen. So the interpretation here is that I try to control (white color) my emotions
(frozen). This is part of the male approach. Showing feelings is shunned. |
11 |
I can't go any further where I'm
at. This does not need any interpretation. |
Now let's look at the I Need
column.
3 |
When it comes to my approach to
life I can feel or I need to include my feelings. Listening to your feelings/heart allows
your female side expression. |
5 |
When it comes to my approach to
life I have the potential to be a smooth 2 lane interstate. An interstate is a main
arterial road and as a symbol indicates the heart (refer to The Circulatory System). So again the dream is
saying to give your heart expression in your life. Notice also that it is a 2 lane
interstate. Make room for give and take (2 lanes allows a flow in both directions). To
give all the time is as damaging as to take all the time. Not surprisingly if you refer The Meaning of Numbers in Dreams you'll find that 2 is a
female number indicating balance, sharing, give and take, two way communication. |
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Clear water is the opposite to
snow. This water is flowing, indicating the flow of life. It is clear, indicating
potential for life to be clear. It is flowing across the road. The road is your path in
life so you should include spirituality in your approach to life. Actually, when shown in
this case it indicates that you will have little choice in the matter. A spiritual course
is mapped out for you and will cross your path in life. With it going across the road
perpendicular to your original direction it indicates a crossroads you will come to where
you will have some difficulty but will choose a spiritual approach as the best direction
in life from there. Trust me, this is a good thing. |
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I need to ditch to my left. This
is a request to 'ditch' your current approach / direction in life and go with a female
approach. You are being told "don't think about the outcome - just drop things where
they are and go with it". |
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I have to get to the road on the
left. This is quite clear and in the dreamers own words. |
Summary
Now that we have the individual
meaning of each of the elements in the dream let's summaries the full meaning of the
dream. This is how you would do it in a counseling session when how you arrived at the
meaning of the dream is not important.
This dream is addressing your approach
to life and is telling you that you have a choice in how life flows from here. Each of us
has both male and female sides, often referred to as Yin and Yang. To create harmony
around us we need to balance this energy within ourselves. In your case the balance tends
to the male side. This is not surprising considering that we live in a very male oriented
society, with male institutions and our school system placing most emphasis on intellect.
Subjects which do involve the heart, such as poetry and art, are often torn apart in an
academic way which again trains us to use the head even for these matters of the heart.
The choice you are faced with now is
whether to continue with a male approach or to move more towards a female approach and so
get closer to balance between male and female sides. The dream explains the negative male
traits and resulting view of life which ensues. Life is bumpy, and rough with obstacles
(rocks) to overcome and carries with it a feeling that you can't go any further. This is
caused by rushing at things, worrying, not trusting and not listening to your own heart.
These are traits your father had and you copied them to a greater or lesser degree. If you
could let go of the negative influence your father had on you while keeping the positive
influences you will find yourself on a completely different and smooth path in life. You
need to open up your heart and become more feeling and forgiving. Life is a spiritual
journey. You probably have not witnessed this in your reality but your dream says that a
spiritual path lies ahead for you. Right now the focus should be on changing yourself by
letting go of the past, particularly on your father's side. A therapy such as cutting the
ties with dad would be appropriate. You will have to cross some rough terrain to do this
but if you stick with it the outcome is worth it.
On a more abstract level the dream is
showing you have a choice between Karma (male) and Dharma (female). Each religion shows
this in its teachings. In the Christian faith Karma is the style of the old testament -
'an eye for an eye' mentality. Then along comes Jesus and he says you no longer need to
live like this. Forgive your enemy! Move onto a Dharmic path. Dharma is termed grace by
the church. In spiritual circles it is often called the Christ Consciousness. Labels don't
matter because it is about how you choose to live your life. Dharma is more difficult to
reach than karma because it requires eliminating the negative influences (baggage) we pick
up in the course of our lives. It often requires a fundamental shift in our philosophy of
life as we allow compassion enter our hearts where once we had our hearts closed off. |
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Dreamer's Comment on
the Interpretation
Thank you for the dream interpretation! I'm studying it
thoroughly - it seems to fit for the most part.
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